You all know by now that the #1 rule of Selfish Seamstressing is, “Don’t sew for others, only for yourself.” If you aspire to be a Selfish Seamstress and have managed to achieve this perfect equilibrium in which every item that passes under your presser foot goes straight into your closet, you should pat yourself on the back- you have reached an extremely high degree of proficiency in Selfish Seamstressing.
Of course, sewing only for oneself is often easier said than done. Perhaps you don’t want to make an enemy of the gossipy lady at work who really wants a pencil skirt “just like yours.” Maybe you don’t want to look like the b who can sew but is still too selfish too make something cute for her neighbor’s toddler, about whom you are SICK OF HEARING ALREADY. Or maybe you think your mom is the kind of person you don’t want to turn against you. For those of you who are still working on your Selfish Seamstressing skills, you might like to refer to my handy guide “Selfish Seamstressing for Beginners,” which I put together a few months ago, to help the novice avoid the most frustrating and hair-pulling-out experiences of sewing for others.
Today, however, for those of you with very high Selfish aspirations, or those who have mastered the art of sewing for oneself and are ready to move on, I offer up this guide to Selfish Seamstressing for Experts! What more is there when you’ve gotten to the point where everything you sew goes to you and you alone, and people know not to ask for fear of the eye daggers you will shoot them? It’s quite simple:
You can use sewing to exploit your friends to get stuff you want.
Oh yes. Advanced Selfish Seamstressing moves beyond sewing things that you want to using sewing as a weapon to manipulate the people around you to do your bidding. Any hobby seamstress has been approached with a request like, “If you make me such-and-such, I will pay you back for the fabric,” or “If you sew some new pants for me, I’ll cook you dinner!” And any seamstress worth her salt knows that these are unfair trades through which she would undoubtedly get the shorter end of the stick unless the friend in question is Thomas Keller. And when faced with such a request, the natural response is annoyance. (Check out Carolyn’s brilliant and eloquent post on this topic!) But the truly truly selfish seamstress should regard this as an opportunity. After all, only the very feeble minded would assume that paying someone back for the fabric is somehow a square deal, right? And when you’re an expert Selfish Seamstress, the question should not be, “How do I get this person off of my back?” but rather, “How can I exploit this friend to my best advantage?”
The secret is choosing the right friends. Like with fabric, patterns, tools, etc., if you can’t use them, lose them. Think of them as objects in your strategy to use sewing for world domination. Case in point: my adorable friend Nienh:
Nienh is fantastic in her own right, no question. She’s smart and fun, always up for doing stuff, and has a brilliant sense of snark which puts the Selfish Seamstress to shame. She drinks tea with her dog, which is kind of awesome. But, more importantly, she serves as an excellent case study from which to draw lessons about picking your friends for selfish seamstressing purposes.
1) Choose friends who have excellent taste and really nice stuff. You’ll notice in the photo above that Nienh is wearing a Coffee Date Dress, sewn by yours truly. Now, before you gasp that the Selfish Seamstress actually sewed a whole dress for someone else, allow her to show you what Nienh gave her in return:
Oh yes. Nienh gave me those in return for a Coffee Date Dress, which at this point I can pretty much sew in my sleep. $10 worth of ivory stretch cotton sateen from Vogue and a couple of hours of easy sewing parlayed into a gorgeous pair of black patent Nine West wedges. Needless to say, Nienh has great taste. A win for the Selfish Seamstress!
2) Choose talented friends who can do awesome stuff for you. In exchange for the Coffee Date Dress, I got more than just shoes. (Negotiation skills are crucial! Who said trades have to be one-for-one? Always aim for at least two-for-one!) Nienh also painted me this cityscape of my favorite bridge in Chicago:
That’s right! Shoes and a beautiful piece of original artwork, custom made for me! Are you starting to see the advantages of advanced selfish seamstressing? With a few more years of practice, I’m thinking I can easily parlay a half dozen basic sheath dresses into a chateau in the French countryside and a beach house in East Hampton.
3) Whenever possible, choose friends who are a convenient size. Sounds weird, right? It’s not. Advanced selfish seamstressing is all about minimizing your effort and maximizing your reward. Choose friends whose proportions don’t deviate from the back of the envelope or who are perfectly symmetrical or otherwise easy to fit. Case in point: Nienh is just about the same size as the Selfish Seamstress which means no tedious fitting! The Selfish Seamstress made up that Coffee Date Dress in her own size, handed it off to Nienh as is, and claimed her prizes. Easy! Another advantage of choosing friends who are exactly the same size as you? If you make something for yourself and you don’t like it, you can pretend you made it for them and use that as yet another opportunity to wheedle shoes out of them.
See? It’s as simple as that. And with a little practice, you too can use your sewing skills to turn the tables and take advantage of the people around you.
As a final story to inspire you to reach ever higher in your Selfish Seamstressing aspirations, I’d like to share a tidbit from my recent surprise trip to Montreal in which I pulled off perhaps the greatest selfish seamstressing coup of my career. Dan arranged the surprise trip to celebrate four years together, Montreal being the city where he first told me he had a crush on me (aww!) back in 2006. In light of this anniversary, I had undertaken a simple S.W.A.G. project for Dan, using the secret fabric I alluded to buying at Whipstitch. Here is the fabric itself:
Sock monkeys and bananas! And here is the S.W.A.G. present, modeled by Dan himself, sporting a little bedhead on account of me dragging him out for a photo right after waking:
Super simple drawstring pajama pants! I sneaked a couple of early morning stitching sessions, and he was none the wiser.
And now you are probably nodding along in full understanding of these advanced concepts. After all, the Selfish Seamstress sewed up a quickie pair of jammy pants (which she has yet to hem), and in return was whisked off on a romantic surprise weekend trip to a beautiful city, put up in a beautiful hotel suite with a whirlpool tub, treated to dinner at a lovely French restaurant, and patiently accompanied to more than a few fabric stores in Montreal. Great deal, right? She milked that boy for all he’s worth!
Except he had one more thing up his sleeve during that trip (remember what I told you about aiming for at least two-for-one?):
You know you’ve mastered Selfish Seamstressing when you manage to exchange a pair of sock monkey print pajama pants for a promise of lifetime commitment. That’s a pretty sweet deal.
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May 12, 2010 at 9:20 am
June
Aaaah, congratulations!!!! What a gorgeous ring. Your post put a huge grin on my face!
May 12, 2010 at 9:23 am
Miss Celie
Trena TOLD me you were getting engaged in Montreal and I begged to differ!! A big FAT congratulations!!
May 12, 2010 at 9:25 am
Bernadette
Dang, you’re good! And the extra fun part? It kinda matches the pajama pants. Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 9:27 am
Koritsimou
(lurker)
OMG, congratulations! What a stunning ring!
May 12, 2010 at 9:28 am
lunatepetal
congrats! that is so exciting!!
the ring is beautiful :)
May 12, 2010 at 9:29 am
Amber
YAYAYAYAYAYAY!!!! I hoped I knew where this was going towards the end and well, I’m SO FREAKING HAPPY FOR YOU!!!
Sorry, I’m a total wedding fiend and get overly excited when people I like get engaged. :)
And I’ll be the crazy one to ask – are you going to make your dress? Because lawd help us if you do – I forsee us all passing out from the sheer fabulousness of it.
May 12, 2010 at 9:30 am
Amanda S.
Congratulations! (But I thought you were already married for some reason.) The ring is just gorgeous!
May 12, 2010 at 9:32 am
Rachel
Wow, that was a round about way to let the internets know you were engaged. Congratulations! You’ll be a gorgeous bride.
May 12, 2010 at 9:33 am
Darci
Yaaaaaaay! Congratulations on making Advanced Selfish Seamstressing get you hitched. If I’d have know that making jammy pants sealed the deal, I would have tried that trick LONG ago. Woo hoo for you!
May 12, 2010 at 9:35 am
Hashi
Awwwwwww :-)
May 12, 2010 at 9:37 am
sa
Love love the last part ! congrats !
May 12, 2010 at 9:38 am
Auntie Allyn
GTFOOH!!! Congratulations!! I just love a story (or website posting) that has a happy ending!!
May 12, 2010 at 9:38 am
Brooke
now THAT is an awesome exchange! i think the only way you are going to beat that will involve donating body parts or something in exchange for sewing. :-)
congrats!!!
May 12, 2010 at 9:39 am
Jan
Wait, emerald is my birthstone, so isn’t that my ring? lol. Gorgeous ring (matches the fiance), and best wishes to you both!
May 12, 2010 at 9:44 am
jen
oooh, congratulations!!!!!!!
May 12, 2010 at 9:44 am
Elizabeth
Gorgeous ring!!! Congratulations! Can’t wait to see what pattern you pick for your wedding dress. Or will you just make another coffee date dress? ;)
May 12, 2010 at 9:44 am
sandoz18
Congratulations!!! Very sneaky of you to make us read the whole post before revealing the glam ring and big news. :)
May 12, 2010 at 9:45 am
karen
I’d marry you myself if you made me a lined trench coat. I love the ring. Best wishes!
May 12, 2010 at 9:45 am
San Antonio Sue
Selfish Seamstressing is easy! Here’s how I do it: when asked by a friend if I’ll sew something for them, I reply, “No, but I sew every weekend. And I have extra machines and everything else. Just come on over any tiime and I’ll teach you to sew!” Nobody’s ever taken me up on it…
May 12, 2010 at 9:47 am
Rachelle
Congratulations! How lovely!
May 12, 2010 at 9:47 am
Karin
Congratulations! I hope you make your own wedding dress so we can read all about it.
May 12, 2010 at 9:49 am
kathleen
Pajamas=engagement ring? I bow down to your superior selfishness skills. Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 9:49 am
nettie
I bow down to your skills!
*on my knees like Wayne and Garth*
We’re not worthy! We’re not worthy!
May 12, 2010 at 9:52 am
Colleen P.
Oh how wonderful! Congratulations!
I love that he picked a ring that isn’t your ordinary run of the mill diamond solitaire, but something unique, a little quirky, and beautiful-much like the woman that wears it. I still think he got the best end of this deal!
May 12, 2010 at 9:52 am
Sewing Sue
Congratulations – you can assure Dan that seamstresses make the Best Wives Ever. Ask my hubby….
May 12, 2010 at 9:53 am
Tasia
Yay!! Congratulations, your post totally made me smile this morning!
May 12, 2010 at 10:00 am
adelaide b
Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 10:01 am
Belly
CONGRATS! (sorry for the caps, too excited) It certainly inspires to follow your footsteps to selfish-seamstressdom
May 12, 2010 at 10:02 am
a peppermint penguin
Congratulations!
You are GOOD. Severe understatement obviously.
Wishing all wonderful things for your future continued happiness (both of you!)
Cheers,
AJ
May 12, 2010 at 10:03 am
Christy
I wonder if Dan is smugly thinking, “Wow, I just had to give her a ring to finally get her to sew me something. I should have done this years ago!”
Congratulations!! Can’t wait for the upcoming posts of wedding dress sewing!!
May 12, 2010 at 10:08 am
Rachel
Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 10:08 am
Debi
I loved the post! CONGRATS! That is so exciting!!!
May 12, 2010 at 10:09 am
Shelley
OMG! Does it mean I’m failing in my selfishness training, if I just teared up a little bit when I read that? So incredibly happy for you! Best wishes to you and Dan, and I can’t wait to see what incredibly beautiful wedding dress you decide to make. Congrats!
May 12, 2010 at 10:09 am
Leigh
Congratulations! I cannot wait to see what you come up with for your wedding dress!
May 12, 2010 at 10:10 am
Laura
I am a terrible Selfish Seamstress. Why, you say? Because I have been putting off making myself some new pants for six months in favor of making first Christmas presents, then quilts, and now a spring/summer wardrobe for my adorable niece. To be fair, my mom volunteered me for the quilts, and I wouldn’t be making Evie so many clothes if it weren’t for the fact that my brother and SIL need help. He just graduated and doesn’t have a job yet and Evie is in desperate need of clothes. So my pattern and fabric stash are helping out.
May 12, 2010 at 10:11 am
Susan Davis - Knitters Delight
Congratulations! That is truly fabulous.
May 12, 2010 at 10:12 am
MakingTime
Congratulations! I was so SURE that was what the trip was about and then you didn’t SAY anything and I was disapponted!!! Yay!! And fabulously crafted post ;)
May 12, 2010 at 10:12 am
wendy
First, Oh man… that doggie is adorable! Your friend is super lucky ;)
Secondly, congratulations! That’s quite the pair of sock monkey PJs!!!
May 12, 2010 at 10:13 am
Claudine
Congratulations! That ring is gorgeous.
May 12, 2010 at 10:14 am
CGCouture
Your fiancee got you an emerald ring too? And here I thought I was the only one who wanted something that wasn’t a diamond! :-) Congratulations! BTW, I totally aspire to being as selfish as you are about sewing–I mean, who knew that PJ pants held such sway over men? ;-)
May 12, 2010 at 10:18 am
HollyS
Congratulations!!!!! Was to go Your Selfishness!
May 12, 2010 at 10:20 am
Nikole
When I grow up I want to be just as nasty a downright selfish as you are.
Congrats
May 12, 2010 at 10:22 am
HollyS
That should have been “way to go!” Your immense selfishness has my fingers tied!
May 12, 2010 at 10:22 am
Katie
Congratulations!! He’s adorable in his PJs with bed head – a definite keeper.
May 12, 2010 at 10:26 am
Trisha
Congratulations! I loved this post– funny, creative, and with a dash of romance!
May 12, 2010 at 10:28 am
Meredith P
We all bow to your superior selfish skills! And congratulations! Can’t wait to hear all about wedding plans and dresses and bridesmaids and more selfishness! Beautiful ring! Dan ain’t bad either, but I think I’ve said that before.
May 12, 2010 at 10:33 am
NT
Yay! Congratulations… nice jammies, cute fiancé, just WIN all around!
May 12, 2010 at 10:35 am
Dora
Hee! Awesome post, and you two are going to make a very hot married couple. Godspeed!
May 12, 2010 at 10:36 am
Peter
Wait — I thought Dan WAS your husband. I would have tried harder to ingratiate myself I’d known he was still available.
Congratulations! The ring is gorgeous, btw. If that thing were real it would be worth a fortune. (An old Joan Rivers joke, sorry….)
Seriously, Mazel Tov!
May 12, 2010 at 10:49 am
wan-nabe
a huge congratulations to you! sneaky sneaky, announcing your engagement right at the end like that. add me to the “i hope you do make your wedding dress” list.
May 12, 2010 at 10:49 am
Cindy
Now THAT is one seriously great shaggy dog story. Congratulations! The ring is gorgeous, and so is Dan!
May 12, 2010 at 10:52 am
Anonymous
Congratulations a hundred times over! This is wonderful news!!!
May 12, 2010 at 10:53 am
Angie
Congratulations! What a lovely ring!
This post made me laugh at the beginning and brought a tear to my eye at the end. I do love a proposal story. Mine involved a discussion about health insurance and ended with him saying, “you know, we could get married…”, so I live vicariously through others. It did seem a little bit more romantic to me when I got appendicitis two months after the wedding, I have to admit.
Now I’m off to try to improve my meager trading and negotiation skills. I need a new sewing machine.
May 12, 2010 at 10:54 am
Megan
This is wonderful news! Congratulations!!! (and yes, please, make your wedding dress – we would all love to see the beautiful creation you come up with!)
May 12, 2010 at 10:54 am
Lee
What a wonderful post! Congratulations! You’ll be a beautiful bride!
May 12, 2010 at 10:56 am
meli88a
Congratulations to you and Dan on your engagement!
May 12, 2010 at 11:07 am
The Slapdash Sewist
So fantastic! I love the ring, so modern and interesting. I’ve made two pairs of boxers and nothing. Maybe I should move on to pajama pants, except he doesn’t wear them.
May 12, 2010 at 11:08 am
LindaC
Congratulations! and much happiness.
May 12, 2010 at 11:08 am
reilly
Congratulations! Way to sneak that in at the very end. ;)
May 12, 2010 at 11:09 am
Beangirl
Right. So remember when you were posting about that dress a while back and *I* said (rather snarkily), “Hmmmm… that dress would make *such* a good wedding dress for *someone*.” And *you* said (rather snarkily) “Oh sure, if *someone* were to get married, then I could wear that dress to the wedding. As a guest.”
Remember that?
Right. Just saying. The Beangirl is psychic, no?
Ok, no. But yay! You now have a reason to make the MOST KICK-ASS dress ever. Deciding which one will be the hardest part.
(you realize toddlers are probably in the future at some point, right? just warning you. they do sort of grow on you, though. especially since, in my experience, snarky selfish adults tend to engender snarky selfish offspring… which makes them pretty entertaining if nothing else.)
May 12, 2010 at 11:10 am
Susan
Quite the trickery, Selfish Seamstress. None can compare to your selfish seamstressing powers. Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 11:12 am
Margaret
Wow! That’s some impressive selfish seamstressing!
Best wishes to you both.
May 12, 2010 at 11:18 am
bookishbella
Congratulations! What a gorgeous ring!
May 12, 2010 at 11:20 am
Len
Eee congratulations!!! Very good exchange for pajama pants I feel! Also, that is quite possibly the most amazing engagement ring I have ever seen!
May 12, 2010 at 11:23 am
MakingTime
I’m back to grab the link and realized how much I love that painting your friend did. Very awesome.
May 12, 2010 at 11:26 am
Angela
What awesome trades! Definitely worth the sewing for those two. ^_^ Congratulations!! The ring is beautiful!
May 12, 2010 at 11:26 am
Tracy
Congratulations!!! This is the best proposal story I have ever read.
May 12, 2010 at 11:31 am
Uta
Beautiful ring. Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 11:31 am
Nancy Karpen
Congratulations! He’s cute and romantic; a real keeper.
May 12, 2010 at 11:37 am
Debbie Cook
Congratulations! What a great post!
May 12, 2010 at 11:42 am
earthanddust
does this mean you’ll be trying to get your hands on the April Burda Mag? ;)
May 12, 2010 at 11:42 am
Karin (the Mrs.)
Elaine, congratulations, what a wonderful news! I wish you both a life long filled with happiness and lots of love. (And are you going to sew your own wedding dress?)
May 12, 2010 at 11:48 am
Alison
CONGRATULATIONS!!! And what a beautiful ring.
May 12, 2010 at 11:55 am
Stephanie
Congratulations! What a funny post, didn’t really expect this ending… :)
May 12, 2010 at 12:04 pm
Crystal
OMG I have warm fuzzies all over. I didn’t see that coming. That’s amazing!!!!! Congrats!!
May 12, 2010 at 12:10 pm
CarmencitaB
You are thy Master in Selfish! Congratulations on pulling the perfect heist.
May 12, 2010 at 12:34 pm
girdtmom
Congratulations!
That ring is stunning. And what a gorgeous pair you two make.
May 12, 2010 at 12:38 pm
Stef
Damn it! I knew I wasn’t negotiating hard enough! I have so so much to learn.
Congratulations!!
May 12, 2010 at 12:44 pm
JillyB
Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 12:49 pm
Jenny
haha, you are too funny. Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 12:58 pm
D
hrm. I made pajama pants (in black and grey plaid flannel no less) and all I got was a lousy domestic partnership.
No ring, only health insurance and the promise after I got laid off that I wouldn’t have to go back to work unless I wanted to.
congrats!
May 12, 2010 at 1:01 pm
Venus de Hilo
Wonderful!
Wonderful news, wonderful post, wonderful ring, wonderful cutie fiance.
Hmmm, somewhere in my stash is fabric purchased with the intent of making my guy PJ pants. But I never did. I decided it would make a cuter plaid flannel skirt for moi for cool days.
But now…
… oh, wait. We’re already married.
Sorry honey. No PJs for you.
Unless there’s a nice trip and a fine hotel stay in it for me.
May 12, 2010 at 1:10 pm
lsaspacey
Now THAT was a great story!!! CONGRATS!!!
However, you also just made a pretty great argument FOR sewing things for your partner, I mean if marriage is your goal.
May 12, 2010 at 1:24 pm
Plummy
Congratulations! That is so exciting! Your post made me happy. :D
May 12, 2010 at 1:25 pm
Kim
OMG! you’re getting married!!! I was NOT expecting that at the end of the post AT ALL!
ps. i hope you make the wedding dress :-)
May 12, 2010 at 1:32 pm
Lee-Ann Galway
Best. Post. Ever. Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 1:37 pm
Vicki
Long post to get to such an exciting ending. Congratulations! Oh and those shoes are pretty fab too (musn’t forget the shoes)
May 12, 2010 at 1:38 pm
Samina
Congratulations! That’s a lovely ring. Love the jammies, too – that’s an adorable fabric.
May 12, 2010 at 2:01 pm
Eloise
1. I love your sense of rhetoric and timing.
2. I love that you are the person who matches that unique and beautiful ring, it makes me feel like I might know you.
3. Having just spent hours making a friend a “simple” costume, only to find out it has made me want to scratch him in the face a little bit when I see him, I wish I’d had this post to read last week.
4. Sock monkeys on bananas is absolutely a fair trade.
5. Congratulations! Your fiancee is a dish and every happiness to you both :D
May 12, 2010 at 2:07 pm
Janice
Congratulations!
I too am a Selfish Seamstress and I absolutely agree with your post.
May 12, 2010 at 2:23 pm
Paula Lemos
Congratulations! Wish you all the best!
May 12, 2010 at 2:23 pm
BeckyMc
I love the ring. Congratulations! (I wear an emerald, too)
I totally loved your post, it had me grinning form ear to ear long before the big announcement. Then your BIG NEWS was the icing on the Selfish Seamstress cake. Thanks for sharing. You will make a beautiful bride.
May 12, 2010 at 2:41 pm
Sue Prichard
I totally LOVE this blog site!
May 12, 2010 at 2:57 pm
Stash
How wonderful! Congratulations! Fun post and hunk picture to accompany..
May 12, 2010 at 3:04 pm
beth
Love it! Congratulations and extra kudos on an extra-clever (and delightful!) post!
May 12, 2010 at 3:05 pm
Silvia
Congratulations! I also loved the way you told the story… truly unique. Thanks… I held my breath till the end and would have never guessed where you would end up with it…
May 12, 2010 at 3:21 pm
Sherry
Congratulations!
To allow you to post a picture of him in his pj’s on your blog just shows that it really is true love!
Now for the important dress……!
May 12, 2010 at 3:22 pm
Daisy
Congratulations! I enjoyed reading your very clever post.
May 12, 2010 at 3:34 pm
Sue
Congraulations! Just when I thought you had selfish snark down to a fine art, I nearly felt a tear well up when the ring showed up at the end of the post.
May 12, 2010 at 3:38 pm
Karen
Congratulations!! I hope you are both very happy! And have great clothes!
May 12, 2010 at 3:40 pm
Stephanie
I love it. Great roundabout way of telling us, and such a pretty ring! How exciting. Can’t wait to see what kind of dress you call into being.
Sigh. I need to work on my Selfish Seamstressing skills. Almost everything I have on the make right now is for someone else, including my mother-in-law.
May 12, 2010 at 3:47 pm
Jessica
Congratulations!! I am a relatively new reader, so I think this might be my first comment.
May 12, 2010 at 3:47 pm
becky
Congratulations! He shows excellent taste!
May 12, 2010 at 3:49 pm
Elly
Congratulations! Have to admit I didn’t guess where that was going…but what a delightful surprise! :) (And a lovely ring!) Best wishes to both of you.
I should keep this trick in mind…I’ve got a while to track down some pajama patterns and sock monkey fabric…
May 12, 2010 at 3:51 pm
Remnant
I love a blog post with a punch line…getting two-fer-one….twice the pleasure. Congrats to you and your fiance.
May 12, 2010 at 4:00 pm
yazmins
(another lurker here)
Congratulations! and I really like your blog :-)
May 12, 2010 at 4:02 pm
dana
hooray! congrats, Elaine!
May 12, 2010 at 4:03 pm
yoshimi
Congratulations! Love all your stories, you are my star.
May 12, 2010 at 4:10 pm
Shirley
congrats and best wishes…
May 12, 2010 at 4:18 pm
Joanna
Congratulations! I love reading your blog, you are so talented.
May 12, 2010 at 4:48 pm
Ann's Fashion Studio
Congratulations ::)
May 12, 2010 at 4:52 pm
Sharon
Congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 4:54 pm
Vivienne
Congratulations! Is that a tsavorite?
May 12, 2010 at 4:57 pm
Jean S
pants..ring..pants..ring: both are fab.
Congrats!!!
May 12, 2010 at 4:59 pm
allisonC
Didn’t see that coming – great post! Congratulations – on all of it – the shoes, painting and ring which is gorgeous and unusual. Sock monkey and banana fabric – who thinks up this stuff?!
May 12, 2010 at 5:09 pm
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May 12, 2010 at 5:19 pm
AlewivesGirl
Awww, congratulations.
LOVE the ring, too!
May 12, 2010 at 6:20 pm
Anonymous
CONGRATULATIONS to you both!!! {{{{{HUGS!}}}}}
Lynn
May 12, 2010 at 6:21 pm
Amy
Ahhh!!! Congratulations!! And I love the ring! Best 2 for 1 ever!
May 12, 2010 at 6:25 pm
Nikki
Congrats! Love the non-traditional ring! I SO hope you make your dress!!!
May 12, 2010 at 6:43 pm
Victoria Baylor
Congrats Lady, we’re soooooo very happy for you!
May 12, 2010 at 6:46 pm
Noile
Why do your selfish, selfish posts leave me feeling ridiculously cheerful??? Congratulations — I think you and Dan are both making out just fine, sock monkey pants and all.
May 12, 2010 at 6:50 pm
A Sewn Wardrobe
Sincere congratulations!
May 12, 2010 at 7:11 pm
AmyG
Congratulations!!! Love your ring and such a sweet story for your 4 year anniversary and engagement. Can’t wait to see your wedding dress if that’s to come down the road.
May 12, 2010 at 7:34 pm
Reethi
All kinds of awesome!
May 12, 2010 at 7:45 pm
Karen
What an amusing way to share some awesome news! Best wishes for a lovely future together!
May 12, 2010 at 7:58 pm
Andrea
Yay! Awesome post. Awesome pajamas. Awesome ring. Awesome fiance. Awesome you. Congrats!
May 12, 2010 at 8:01 pm
Whitney
Congratulations! I thought something might have been up with the trip. The ring is BEAUTIFUL! I wish you two a long and happy life together.
PS. Awesome post:)
May 12, 2010 at 8:28 pm
Jennifer
Congratulations! The ring is beautiful and so unique! I love it! I didn’t see that one coming while I was reading your post! haha! A big congrats! Now…are you going to sew up one of those Burda bridal gowns? ha!
May 12, 2010 at 10:17 pm
Susannah (the other one - from Australia)
congratulations. Hope the newfound status doesn’t get in the way of sewing or, (from a more selfish perspective) your wonderfully snarky blog!
May 12, 2010 at 11:19 pm
Lise
Congratulations! Love the story, love the ring. I even love the sock monkey fabric.
May 13, 2010 at 12:36 am
vicky
Bliss to you both! and nice shoe score;)
May 13, 2010 at 1:53 am
Jane
Congratulations, how wonderful.
May 13, 2010 at 2:09 am
Henriette
You crack me up! Congratulations. I cannot wait to see the wedding gown now…..
May 13, 2010 at 2:33 am
Shannon
Wow! All the best to you both! I really liked how you shared the news. Now for all the fun planning….
May 13, 2010 at 2:55 am
jenny
Congratulations to the both of you
What a wonderful post – I just love your attitude, snark and humour and what a way to tell!
May 13, 2010 at 4:08 am
seemane
Many congratulations to you & Dan!
Your posts never fail to make me smile & giggle – keep up the selfishly good work :) !!
May 13, 2010 at 5:00 am
Becky
Congratulations! And that’s seriously one of the best engagement rings I’ve ever seen.
May 13, 2010 at 5:20 am
Renee
Delurking to offer heartfelt congrats! Love your blog and I’m so happy for you.
May 13, 2010 at 5:54 am
Vicky@coffeesandmilkies
Congratulations. Gorgeous ring.
And such a funny post too.
Have only just found your blog, but will be coming back for more.
May 13, 2010 at 6:10 am
Laurie
I love and adore you and if you weren’t engaged and if I wasn’t married and if I wasn’t a woman who likes men I would want to marry you too. Congratulations! I am wishing you many years of joy and happiness.
May 13, 2010 at 6:46 am
Sara
Congratulations!! The ring is beautiful, and your S.S. skills are par excellence!
May 13, 2010 at 6:48 am
Erin
Aaawww!! Congratulations, that is so exciting! Dare we hope for a Selfish Seamstress original wedding dress? Your ring is beautiful, btw!
May 13, 2010 at 7:05 am
Benny the Bunny
Congrats! Beutiful ring. Not the usual. He’s got great taste!
May 13, 2010 at 8:06 am
melissa
Congratulations!! As a fiance myself with an emerald, non-standard ring, I applaud his taste!! It’s gorgeous!
May 13, 2010 at 8:43 am
lin3arossa
OMG congratulations! I’m seeing a lot of selfish sewing in the near future (wedding gown) and even more SWAG in the distant future (kids want to get dressed too lol). They do give back too, though. Not shoes, art or jewelry, but maybe an (imaginary) sunray or some frog or other creatures they just caught in the garden :)
May 13, 2010 at 8:51 am
Sarah M
Congratulations – a gorgeous ring from a gorgeous guy – you deserve no less!
May 13, 2010 at 9:14 am
Gowns, rings, and wedding-y things « The Selfish Seamstress
[…] goodness! Dear readers, thank you for your outpouring of warmth and congratulations over my recent engagement-related puppetmastery of Dan via sewing. Hopefully Dan will not realize how he has been manipulated into matrimonial subservience until it […]
May 13, 2010 at 9:20 am
Cynthia
Wow!! Congratulations to you and Dan!!! The ring is beautiful and I’m happy for you both.
Cynthia
May 13, 2010 at 9:55 am
Tracey
Congrats! I guess it really does pay to be selfish!
May 13, 2010 at 11:46 am
Samira
Congratulations from an adoring lurker! You´ve really mastered the art of selfish seamstressing!
And the ring is gorgeous!
May 13, 2010 at 12:31 pm
Julie
Wait a minute…pajama pants equals romantic weekend and engagement! I got screwed. I had to quit an awesome job and move to another state to get my ring. Maybe if I had just made those stupid athletic shorts he wanted…. I must buckle down and study some advanced selfish seamstressing. Congrats and best wishes to you both!
May 13, 2010 at 5:22 pm
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May 13, 2010 at 7:01 pm
Kathi
Congratulations!! I miss a few days and miss a WHOLE lot!!!!!!!!!!
May 13, 2010 at 7:32 pm
D
Congratulations!! I clearly have much to learn from your wily ways…
May 13, 2010 at 10:11 pm
Lindsay
Ha, totally hilarious and congratulations!!!
May 14, 2010 at 5:05 am
Audreyswardrobe
Oh wow, congratulations!!! I am so happy for your happiness! :) May you continue to exchange the odd pajama pants for breakfasts in bed and romantic walks in the sunset with the man of your life for ever and ever. :)
May 14, 2010 at 3:09 pm
Anonymous
I was just wondering whether you guys were going to tie the knot soon! CONGRADULATIONS! You guys are so cute together!
May 14, 2010 at 4:52 pm
Rose in SV
How did I miss this story! I’m sooooo very happy for you both. Congratulations!
Rose in SV
May 15, 2010 at 5:57 am
Fourth Daughter
Wow.. it’s sort of like reading my own thoughts EXACTLY about sewing for other people… unless people pay in cash for what you sew, it never ends up being an equal exchange.. Actually… even when they pay in cash I still end up selling myself short! I need to be much, much more selfish!
May 15, 2010 at 8:08 pm
KAREN
Your ring is one of the most beautiful ones I have ever seen. Love the stone, love the setting. Congratulations, and I can only hope for you that you and Dan are as happy together as my husband and I are.
May 16, 2010 at 5:24 am
kate
Congrats – nice Pjs nice prize.
I send your manifesto to some of my sewing pals to remind them to sew for themselves…
May 16, 2010 at 8:38 am
Deborah
I can’t believe I’m only just reading this–CONGRATULATIONS! Fabulous news, fabulous ring, jazzy pants. Looking forward to seeing the details unfold–as one who eloped, I really enjoy the vicarious thrill of someone else’s wedding (especially when I know they’ll Do It Right).
Mazel Tov, and here’s to a life spent together!
Deborah
May 18, 2010 at 1:22 pm
Tenshi
Congratulations! The ring really is beautiful. What an exchange – PJs for an engagement!
June 4, 2010 at 8:15 am
carotweenie
Sincères félicitations pour cette bonne nouvelle…Quelle jolie émeraude…
July 2, 2010 at 7:53 am
Adventures in denim « Tanit-Isis Sews
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July 6, 2010 at 11:30 pm
Christina
Are you available to make the coffee date dress for pay?