A friend of mine once remarked that physically attractive women could be divided into three categories of attractiveness: Beautiful, Sexy, and Cute. I don’t think this is the only possible way of dividing the space, but it seems as reasonable a taxonomy as any. I also don’t think it’s quite so simple, as I find that women generally possess all of these qualities in different measures and ratios, and perhaps some even in equal measure. But I think my friend’s point is rather valid that for many or most women, one of these qualities is more dominant (Primarily Beautiful, Primarily Sexy, or Primarily Cute) than the others in their attractiveness. (I think the same taxonomy could also be applied to men, but I think people use those words differently when talking about men, so I’ll just ignore the topic of men’s attractiveness for this discussion.)
If the Selfish Seamstress may be so bold as to assume that she is at least somewhat attractive to some person somewhere (and we are talking about being attractive on the outside, as everyone knows that on the inside the Selfish Seamstress is purely hideous with no redeeming inner beauty), then she would have to also (somewhat grudgingly) place herself squarely in the Primarily Cute pile, rather than the Primarily Sexy or Primarily Beautiful pile. Moonfaced, round-eyed, and no larger than your thumb, this seems the most obvious categorization.
So why am I thinking about this today? Because I’ve recently purchased some awfully cute prints (contrary to popular belief, the Selfish Seamstress does not hate prints):
That’s an Amy Butler polka dot cotton, earmarked for a light spring trench jacket.
That’s a bold floral Amy Butler cotton sateen in a light decorator weight, intended for a simple 3/4 length coat, to be worn with the simplest of sheath dresses and updo. (Sigh. If I must be forced to admit it, I got the idea for such a coat after seeing a floral coat on some random lady on some random TV show. She’s NOT my style icon, but I just like the coat, okay?)
This was a vintage find- 8 yards (!!) of cotton with a French market scene border print, destined to become a sundress with spaghetti straps and a full, full skirt. I would love to find a cardigan in that shade of French blue to belt over it.
So what was the point of that whole prelude about cuteness? Simply that I think that if you fall into the Primarily Cute bucket (not literally fall into a bucket of cuteness), you have to take especial precaution with your cute prints. A tall, skinny, exotic model can make a pink flowered chiffon Anna Sui babydoll dress look chic and edgy; the same dress on the Selfish Seamstress would look as though she had indeed stolen it off of a baby doll. For me, it is imperative that a cute print be paired with a sophisticated or even austere cut, unless I want to look like a giant toddler.
Particular details of cut about which I have to be careful: the aforementioned babydoll silhouette, puff sleeves, flounces at the hem, Peter Pan collars, empire waists, a-line dresses (a-line skirts are ok), bows. Most of these I think I can pull off in some cases with a sophisticated or plain fabric, but you won’t catch any of them stepping out with any of the prints above. Incidentally, I would also warn the ladies in the “Primarily Sexy” category to be careful when pairing cutesy print + cutesy cut. Could end up looking a little costume-y, if you know what I mean.
In any case, prints are still a gamble for me, and even sticking to simple fitted bodices and tailored trench details don’t guarantee that the garments I have planned for those fabrics won’t be flops. But I guess that’s just trial and error at work.
How about you? What elements and combinations do you love and what do you know to stay away from?
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March 30, 2010 at 12:36 pm
reilly
I think I learned this the hard way and not even with a print. I made a white, ruffle-y collar blouse to be worn with a high-waisted and suspendered skirt that I chose a bright turquoise for. I felt like an overgrown doll.
March 30, 2010 at 12:42 pm
Karin
Ah yes, I know what you mean. In my case, I love some really cute outfits, you know, the kind with sweet little collars, ruffles here and there, certain flower prints, the vintage kind. But somehow I really shouldn’t wear those. Somehow they make me look very old-fashioned and dull.
About coats with bold flower prints: I just made one and even while sewing it I kept wondering if I made the right choice and if I wouldn’t look like a clown in it. But I have to say that I love it. It’s bold, it’s really in your face bold, but this one doesn’t make me feel and look dowdy. I feel sparkly in it. And that’s good!
March 30, 2010 at 6:45 pm
selfishseamstress
Ooh, lovely coat and you *look* sparkly in it!
March 30, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Jenna
I’m right there with you – I really, really have to watch the cute. Which is a shame, because I like cute. I did manage to make a puffed sleeve blouse that works well – I used a mens geometric print shirt for the fabric!
I actually don’t think you’ll go wrong with any of those fabrics – they are more grown-up, you know? The french market scene would have been a close call in other colours, but at least on my monitor it doesn’t look little-kid-cutesy. But I’d stay away from adding bows to that dress ;).
March 30, 2010 at 12:56 pm
emily
I fall into the Sexy category (big boobs, big butt, small waist) so my problems are more in the shape category rather than the print category, but anything too cutesy makes me look like I’m trying to attract pervs in some type of role playing lolita fantasy. that, or I look like I never realized that I grew boobs 20 years ago. So, cutesy is out. overly fitted, sexy outfits are out (otherwise I get too much bad attention) but boxy shapes that totally hide my body just make me look pregnant or frumpy so, difficult.
October 21, 2011 at 4:02 pm
Katie
I totally understand the desire to avoid certain kinds of attention that you get because of the way your body looks. For me, I feel that other people’s thoughts are their responsibility (within reason) and that I shouldn’t put too much effort into trying to control them. For the most part, I stick to cleavage-free necklines, knee-length hemlines, and fits that are flattering but not tight. I do wear styles that emphasize my waist, and colors that make me glow! If I’m still too sexy to handle after abiding by all the generally accepted rules of modesty, then people just need to keep their thoughts to themselves :) . Don’t tolerate disrespectful behavior and stay strong and sexy!
March 30, 2010 at 12:56 pm
Debi
I love, love, love the French market scene fabric! What a find!!
March 30, 2010 at 1:08 pm
Shannon
Now that I’m in my 40s, my struggle is buying/making clothes that don’t make me look like I’m trying to dress like I’m still in my 20s. Anything with ruffles/gathers and empire waists tends to fall into that category, as do a lot of prints. (Or maybe I’m just terrified of prints – looking at my current stash, there’s exactly one print in there, and it’s so subtle that it might as well be a solid.) At the same time, I don’t want to dress like my mom either. Clean silhouettes seem like the way to go, with the occasional pleat, but the fitting part is still a stretch for my sewing ability at this point. So, I’m still working it out.
March 30, 2010 at 1:13 pm
Venus de Hilo
That Amy B. floral coat is going to be gorgeous! I’ve made a couple of skirts from that line, and the fabric is a wonderful weight to work with. Can’t wait to see the finished product.
I’ve never remotely approached cute, and look best in clean-lined classics which don’t suit my personality. I’m tall, so no “doll” issues, but the boho-chic styles I gravitate toward are dangerously close to hippie-granny territory now that I’m middle-aged.
March 30, 2010 at 1:17 pm
cidell
I always buy cute prints, but I never read cute. When my hair and makeup are done and I’m actually dressed like an adult with the right lighting, I’ll get beautiful. But, my personality is all kinds of cute and I want to be all kinds of sexy :)
March 30, 2010 at 1:18 pm
Mikhaela
On the one hand, I have an instinctive resistance to being told what I should and should not wear. I recently got my back up when a BurdaStyle commenter told me I shouldn’t have worn horizontal stripes in a photo since they weren’t very slimming, to which I replied that as a 3rd-trimester pregnant woman, I have no intention of trying to look slim…
On the other, one must face facts. As a large-busted woman who has found myself going from DD to G in recent times (partly before and partly during said pregnancy), some styles just come off looking weird or trashy if I’m not careful. As you say, a cute print and cute cut can look costumey on certain figures–they make me feel like a grownup trying to pretend to be a schoolgirl. And ruffles/flounces/pockets or other such details around the bust area just don’t seem to be a good idea.
But whatever. I still love horizontal stripes!
March 30, 2010 at 3:35 pm
stitchywitch
Seriously, they told you your stripes weren’t slimming? What the heck? I sometimes get bitchy comments at BurdaStyle too, I just ignore them… sometimes it feels a little too much like high school. You rocked those stripes!
March 30, 2010 at 1:34 pm
meli88a
I have that polka dot fabric in red and have also been thinking to make a lightweight coat with it… we could be coat twins!
March 30, 2010 at 6:47 pm
selfishseamstress
Cool :) I thought about the red one too- it’s so fun. Yay for coat twins!
March 30, 2010 at 2:00 pm
Tara
I have to avoid puffy sleeves, baby doll cut dresses, empire waist tops or dresses, etc. I guess that would be things in the cute category? I tend to look better in clothes with a more sophisticated/tailored cut.
March 30, 2010 at 2:16 pm
Gry
Somebody recently called my figure sculptural – I suppose that catagorises me as primarily beautiful? At least by exclusion, for cute just don’t work very well with being tall and sculptural and I don’t have the kind of personality to pull off sexy. Somehow cute styles easily end up looking ridiculous on a tall woman. Prints are also tricky – most of them just work so much better on those annoying petite women.
I also avoid most shades of pink, especially pink with cute cut, because being with blonde with blue eyes, most pink shades send me directly into barbie-territory.
March 30, 2010 at 2:17 pm
Carol
I love cute peter pan collars and ruffles, but on me they are just WRONG. It’s a perfect case of mutton dressed up as lamb. I love polka dots, though and would really like a trench made from your fabric. It will be lovely. The floral coat over a plain sheath with some really interesting shoes would be great. You need orange shoes with the last one. Orange patent leather, I think … or is that just me?
March 30, 2010 at 7:26 pm
lorrwill
Ah Wise Carol, you and I are in the same boat. I would by far rather show the class to dress my age than appear a fool wearing the trappings of a 20-something.
March 30, 2010 at 2:50 pm
Angela
Cute prints! I have to avoid certain elements due to my figure. For example, puffy sleeves would not look good on me since I have large arms and it make me looks way too top heavy, but you’re right it’s a lot of trial and error. I want to try girlier things, but I’m a little scared… I guess I won’t know unless I try it. :)
March 30, 2010 at 3:00 pm
Auntie Allyn
First off, if you should decide that any of those three print fabrics really aren’t going to work for you, I will do the noble thing and take them off your hands for you! (I do so love the large flowered print and ADORE the idea of making it into a coat!)
Secondly, I have the challenge of finding age-appropriate fabrics and, especially, patterns. I’m in the awkward age range . . . old enough to be a card-carrying member of AARP, too young for senior citizen discounts. It’s obvious that I’m not buying any Hillary Duff patterns, but I find that so many of the new patterns have way too many flounces and ruffles (and NO sleeves). However, I am genetically blessed with a tall stature and I’m reasonably proportioned, so I can get away with many of the more edgy outfits (like Donna Karan’s dresses). It’s unlikely that you’ll ever see me in a Peter Pan collar, or short cap sleeves, or wearing a babydoll silhouette. As far as fabrics, I like either solids or bold prints . . . no teeny-tiny stuff for me!
March 30, 2010 at 6:47 pm
selfishseamstress
I’m jealous- I always look at those Donna Karan patterns and wish I had the body for them.
March 30, 2010 at 3:03 pm
~buzzybee~
Love the French market fabric!
I’m not sure where I fit on the cute/beautiful/sexy scale, but I’m having a style quandary anyway! Hitting forty and getting bigger in the waistline just changes everything so much. I suppose I am moving to a more classic and minimal look, but I do like a bit of attitude thrown in to stop it getting boring!
March 30, 2010 at 3:10 pm
jen
I have to be careful of the “cute” since I most definitely am not. I’m not saying I’m unattractive, just not described as cute. I’m 5’11” which pretty much rules out cuteness, I am also very “v” shaped, with broad shoulders and a big bust, also cute-negators. I love Amy Butler prints, but have to stick with an a-line skirt or simple tunic in one of her non-pink patterns.
March 30, 2010 at 3:25 pm
Samina
I’m in the same boat as Shannon, who commented earlier. I also find that since I’m reasonably petite, anything ruffly or froofy looks ridiculous on me. I’m ok with prints, but need clothing with clean lines to not feel as if I look like an idiot.
As far as the cardigan goes, there’s a shade of Rowan Calmer that, according to my monitor, would be a perfect match for the blue in that fabric. I almost done with Chicknits CeCe pattern in that color, & it’s lovely in yarn to work with.
March 30, 2010 at 3:33 pm
Maura
Sigh. I, too, fall into the “cute” category. The redheaded, plump, freckle-face variety. I would love to blithely sport bohemian braids or whip out a gingham skirt, but it’s quite a risk. Let the comparisons to the Wendy’s girl/Little Orphan Annie/Laura Ingalls Wilder/Howdy Doody begin! Heavy sigh.
March 30, 2010 at 3:33 pm
stitchywitch
Ha – I was inspired by that photo of SJP too, but I was too embarrassed to admit it on my blog – you have my admiration! And I’m totally stealing your idea of using one of those Amy Butler sateens for a coat… they are lovely (different print, I promise!)
I love ruffles and puff sleeves, but I agree they are tricky to wear… I try to limit myself to one item per outfit, which is hard considering my insane love of frills and prints! I have to avoid big prints, because I am small and they overwhelm me, so even if I love them I leave them at the store!
March 30, 2010 at 4:37 pm
sara
I think there is a fourth category of attractiveness. In french we call it “allure”. I would define it as a combination of style, confidence, and grace. ladies like Gabrielle Chanel and Arletty would fall into that category.
March 30, 2010 at 7:31 pm
lorrwill
Sara, I am not only going to quote you but post this by my sewing area.
March 31, 2010 at 4:25 am
sara
Well, I’m flattered!
March 30, 2010 at 5:15 pm
Jenn
I have similar issues – I am 37. But I don’t look it (don’t believe me? Look at picture on my blog!). As the mother of 6 – with one who is going to be 18 in 3 months, I have to find a way to dress maturely – without looking like my mother, grandmother, or aunt.
So, I don’t wear ruffles. Or cutesy prints – unless they are a skirt and paired with something solid. I don’t wear peter pan collars or lace very often.
I do wear full skirts at times – with a full petticoat! And I normally wear some sort of heel – because I am short as well…and I like to think that taller shoes make me look older!
I love vintage styling – I have an hourglass figure – so hip-hugger jeans don’t look right with my shirt tucked in – but waist pants do look nice. So, I tend to wear vintage styles to emphasize the hourglass thing.
March 30, 2010 at 5:33 pm
jackie
I completely agree. I also fall firmly in the “cute” category (as evidenced by the fact that despite the wedding ring I wear I am still asked out by middle school age boys on a regular basis) and find it imperative to dress older/more dressy/more sedately than I would if I were taller and more in the beautiful than cute column.
March 30, 2010 at 5:34 pm
jackie
PS – I am 27 yrs old.
March 30, 2010 at 7:07 pm
Susan
I, too, fall squarely into the cute category – there seem to be a whole lot of us! I find that my wardrobe consists nearly entirely of solids with the occasional small print or polka dot. Nearly all of the clothes that I make myself are a-line skirted with structured bodices – I have a little waist and basically no chest, so a girl has to make the best of what she’s got. The perk to all this is that I can wear rather low cut halter dresses without looking hoochie. I sometimes wish that I was more on the sexy side of things (bigger chested would be nice..) but then I am thankful that whenever something doesn’t fit (whether it be store bought or handmade), it’s usually merely an issue of pulling in the top and not any more serious alteration.
Now that I’ve begun to sew more for myself (yay for actually owning a sewing machine now), I have come to understand that some combination of a fitted top with a full skirt (or a pencil skirt for just bottoms) is my comfort zone. Little puff cap sleeves are fun, but I have to be careful lest I end up looking like a doll.
March 30, 2010 at 7:19 pm
lorrwill
I am 5’4″ and roughly a RTW size 2. I aspire to be a girly girl but was playing army with boys over dolls with the girls growing up. I have failed to self-destruct and have made it to 49.
Background laid I can say without much thought that:
Good for me is sleek, modern, with a slightly punk edge. Pencil skirts, tailored pants, mod/modernist jackets, etc. I will rock the skinny jeans again after I remind my ab muscles what they are supposed to be doing down there. I went through a goth phase. I got compliments, actually.
Very, very bad on me: man-tailored looks.
Bad: knee length pleated plaid skirts. I look too school girly. Nothing cutesy, frilly or too youthful works on me. I either look like I am trying too hard or are in costume.
I shun sexy because I just don’t consider myself sexy and find the whole cougar thing repugnant. Oddly, when I was younger, I could wear the same outfit as a co-worker and it would be “cute” on her and “sexy” on me. (I never did sort how the heck that works out. I certainly wasn’t trying to get hit on by the fat married office guys.)
March 30, 2010 at 9:33 pm
Lourdes
There’s nothing wrong with cute! Most of my stash is solid colors, but I recognize how a print can dress up an outfit. If I pick a “cute” print, I pair it with an almost austere simple style. If it’s ruffles, I stick to a solid, so it’s not too much.
Your print would look very sophisticated sewn up like this http://www.flickr.com/photos/26123665@N06/3707971047/in/set-72157621314957954 (not that I’m trying to change your mind but just an example of mix of cute & sexy…. although you would need to wear a cami under that shirt, but check out the shoes … they are cute with bows)
March 31, 2010 at 12:02 am
KJ
Tell me about it! And you not only have to watch out for the clothes, but the hair and makeup too! Sometimes (ok, twice) I put so much effort into trying to look more glamourous and I ended up looking like the 5 year old who got into Mummy’s makeup. And then if I decide not to fight it and go all the way with cute, I look like the 5 year old who didn’t get into Mummy’s makeup. A prematurely aged 5 year old. It’s a very attractive look.
March 31, 2010 at 12:04 am
Karin
Interesting stuff to think about. I think you make a few good points.
I am curious about the Amy Butler quilting cotton for a trench coat. Will you interface the whole thing? How will you give it enough body?
March 31, 2010 at 1:01 am
Laura
I, Laura, can be considered as the “unselfish seamstress’ because I rarely sew for myself. Instead, I sew for the little people in my family–as in babies and toddlers. Therefore, scale of print must be considered. When you’re under two feet tall, a large print not only looks hideous on you, but you drown in it! I learned this as a child from making, ironically for this discussion, doll clothes. So I have a small print dress sans hem, buttons, and pinafore, currently sitting on my couch. My two-year-old niece will look adorable in it for Easter. Tomorrow, we figure out where to hem it and go after buttons for it. And then I start on the pinafore which, frankly, should be easier than the dress because it doesn’t have all the piping!
March 31, 2010 at 1:29 am
Uta
I’m fairly certain I’ve never been thought of as cute by anyone after I turned four or so. And I’m not sure I’m the sexy type either, what with my usual austere updo and eyeglasses etc. Still, I stay away from either cute or sexy garments, and I think it suits me. Maybe it’s just the “cute” type that doesn’t want the emphasis by choosing cute garments? (Primarily sexy women, to go with your categorization, usually go with sexy garments too, if only subtly, I think.)
March 31, 2010 at 2:34 am
Marie-Christine
Mmm. I’m definitely un-cute, as described so well by Molly Ivins. There’s something about sheer size that defies any sort of cuteness beyond the age of 10. So I can get away with sushi or ducks, or huge prints that’d probably dwarf you and/or make you look like you just escaped from kindergarden.
However you’re right about the need for caution – I’ve had to redo sleeves on a t-shirt recently. A lovely flowery blue, reminescent of Persan miniatures or Chinese porcelain. However, the puffed sleeves made it look too girly, and I didn’t feel well in it, even outside of work. Hacked with fitted sleeves it’s now perfect. The same sleeves are just fine in a charcoal solid. Morality: I can do puffed sleeves, which suit my puny sloped shoulders, but I can’t do puff -and- flowers together.
March 31, 2010 at 5:13 am
purpleshoes
This is humorous as I always believed cuteness was marketed primarily to women under 5’3″ – ruffley lapels? tiny peter pan collars? Extremely buttoned-up shirt dresses in general? Who over that height wears that stuff? If nothing else because on me (I’m 5’8″ with extremely upright posture – people tend to guess much taller) there are just a heck of a lot more total inches of duck fabric or rocketships or whatever then there are on the teensy and it’s out of scale. (It should be said here that I do think of cute clothes primarily in bodice terms – I’ve never thought about it before, but I’m short-torsoed and have a lot of leg, so I can get away with a lot of ridiculousness in the skirt territory before it looks childish). However, I’m not sure any of the three categories apply to me, I say in a positive way. There are people who are beautiful and/or sexy and/or full-time cute for life, I’m sure, but my general belief is that most people start cute, are graced with “pretty” for a while, and then with some application can grow into something between being well put together, glamorous, and beautiful belle laide style, where your quirks become a virtue. Right now I tend to dress pretty, which involves a lot of dressing for and like other people, but I am working on my sewing skills precisely so that I can kick the ass of stage 3.
March 31, 2010 at 5:31 am
emadethis
Ah, ever the problem.
My size would make me cute (although at 5′ 2.5″, I tower over you, dear Selfish Seamstress), but my full bust and big old childbearing hips would lump me in the sexy category. This becomes an interesting balance for me. I avoid prints unless they are WEE tiny (sadly, there aren’t too many that are wee tiny, and when I find them, I pounce on them) because in addition to making me look not unlike the Travelocity gnome in stature, big prints make the girls look like cannonballs, and as much as I’ve come to terms with them, I don’t need any more attention drawn there. I also stay away from the crayon box shade of every color, i.e. colors in any illustrated rainbow. I look like little orphan Annie when I wear these colors, though I love them. I’ve found if I go a couple of shades to either side of those colors they become wearable for me, but if I go too far (like to the pastel range), I’m back to the little girl look.
Puffed sleeves? Ack! Run away in terror! They dwarf me and make the girls look bigger. A double whammy those things are. If I see gathers on the sleeve cap in the technical drawings, I nix the pattern off the bat. This seems cruel at times, and I fight with myself over other lovely aspects of these patterns, but I know that it’s best. Someday, I’d like to know how to take the extra fluff out of those sleeves.
I need structure…fitted bodices and then A line skirts to make the hips not so obvious. I can’t do fitted all over…my hips overtake those silhouettes and make me look significantly shorter and rounder.
March 31, 2010 at 7:04 am
Clodagh
I’d never actually have thout of those styles for those prints myself but they couldn’t be more perfect. Giving the wearability of prints a whole new rethink now. Cheers! :)
March 31, 2010 at 9:25 am
Rose
What comes to mind when I read this post is a dress I made while pregnant with my first. I wanted a few summer dresses to get me through the Florida summer heat. Before being pregnant, I always made little spaghetti-strapped sundresses in cute and funky prints. So I did the same when it came time to make my maternity dress. Only the cute print came across as a joke when used on a maternity dress. Big mistake. I wore my cute nightmare dress only a few times. I never even touched it for my second pregnancy.
March 31, 2010 at 12:57 pm
Laura Georgina
Oh gosh, the cute thing… I’m perfectly happy with my respectable 5’1 height, but I have to avoid certain cutenesses like the plague. I recently made a plaid wrap dress with a slightly puffy sleeve and look like a farmer’s 10-year-old daughter in it. I have to be really careful with prints (though I love them, and the bigger and brighter the better) and details (I could wear a peter pan collar, but only if paired with something super edgy or mean and dangerous heels).
And I have a double whammy of having a very hourglass figure, so anything that makes other girls look kinda sexy makes me look like Jessica Rabbit–and not in a good way. I can do figure-hugging as long as I don’t do vampy accessories (short skirt with heels and I’d get arrested for sure).
March 31, 2010 at 2:39 pm
The Slapdash Sewist
Insofar as I am attractive I am just cute. I have embraced it. I try not to go juvenile, but I am prints all the way; screw trying to make “cute” into “sophisticated” because it’s not happening. Love your selections and that French market print is to die for!
March 31, 2010 at 3:49 pm
sewcraftyfox
Interesting and made me think (not my fave activity but hey). I’m 5ft 4in , uk10-12 (us6-8) and have a 32dd chest. I’m hourglass and could go down the sexy route easily, but my personality is more quirky/cute so that’s how I dress. It makes me feel beautiful and sexy MY way. One thing I’ve learned is to balance styles eg a cutesy top with tough denim, a really short skirt with thick tights and chunky boots, mad earrings with simple hair and top yadda yadda yadda. That way I can get away with most stuff. At 35 I should have it worked out by now. You’d think so anyway… My top tip – when you see something in a clothes shop/pattern that you like, remember to ask yourself ‘do I like it because it’ll look good on me, or because I like the materials/techniques used and want to use it to sew an awsome bag/cushion/piece of modern art’.
April 1, 2010 at 6:01 am
Mandco
Sooo funny, I love this post!! I’ve been reading your blog for a while now, but today I just had to comment to say how much I love both your sewing creations, and your writing equally much! Myself, I’m 6ft tall, with a straight figure, so I find I use many of your cute no, no’s in my wardrobe, to cute’n myself up a bit ;-) Haven’t thought about it this way before though ;-)
April 1, 2010 at 7:40 am
Raouletta
I’m half asian, 160cm short and wear size 36 shoes (in my country, that’s kind of the smallest women size, sometimes it goes down to 35, but under that is kids’ zone) so I’m used to be careful in choosing my outfits. I’m lucky enough to be able to wear almost anything, any colour, hats are fine, glasses too, pants, skirts, dresses (I must say I love my legs…) but if I don’t want to be mistaken for a pre-teen (happens often when I try to buy some wine, cashiers love checking my ID) I have to stick to some basic rules/tricks:
1/ NEVER wear cute, flat, tiny ballerinas…Makes me short and look like I’m 12 and my feet suddenly disappear! poof! Not mentionning everybody commenting on how cute and small I am, I like being cute, that’s not a problem, but I’m not a puppy! Exception can be made if wearing long trousers and big, chic, women-y handbag.
2/ I always wear make-up, ususally nice and clean eye-liner, it helps showing you have more skills than a 13 years old lolita stealing from her mumm.
3/ I LOVE heels, make me taller and more feminine and more grown-up like, so use them, especially if you want to wear something cute with them, it gives a more sophisticated side.
4/ MOST important: I think mainly, everthing is more in the attitude than in the outfit…You can wear the sexiest nicest cocktail dress with hair and nail and everything done perfect, if you sit with your legs apart and your finger deep in your nosetril, you’ll be neither cute, sexy, nor beautiful. Wearing a sexy dress, with some cute thoughts and feeling beautiful all at the same time: that’s what will make you gorgeous.
Well, you know, it’s only my opinion.. :-) Sorry, for being soooo long!
April 1, 2010 at 1:54 pm
Hana Marmota
So far, I’ve been avoiding ruffles (apart from a wide, not very ruffly ruffle on the bottom of a corduroy skirt) and puffed sleeves. I like ruffles and puffed sleeves in some instances. I even love them in some instances. But somehow, in the end I always come to the conclusion it would not look so good on me. The closest I come to it is a gathered neckline at a blouse. I feel better off in smooth shapes – I feel more like myself in them.
Example 1: I love Regency clothing. You know the image of regency, don’t you? Empire waist and short puffed sleeves! Well, in the end I’ve decided to make my potential Regency dress in an early regency style sleeve-wise and give it straight sleeves. Regency dresses with straight sleeves rule. :D
Example 2: I love the JJ blouse on BurdaStyle. But I don’t know whether I should even try… I always end up thinking the ruffles would be too much, and without the ruffles, it would be just a generic button-down shirt, which does not exactly fit into my world. And the same applies to your coffee date dress. I love it. I really do. I just don’t know whether I’d love the ruffle so much on myself… Maybe if I made the ruffle out of a very lightweight fabric…
P.S. I wrote “furrle” instead of “ruffle” once in this post. (I corrected it, of course.) It looks funny. :D
April 1, 2010 at 5:34 pm
Kathi
Very interesting. I agree that people need to figure out what looks good and what doesn’t. So many women have no clue and end up looking ridiculous. Your outfits always look very nice. I look forward to seeing the end results with the prints, though. They will be a departure from your other items!
April 3, 2010 at 5:24 pm
Flirting with crafty crazy: McCall 5525 « The Selfish Seamstress
[…] April 3, 2010 in work-in-progress | Tags: Amy Butler, jacket, McCall 5525 For the first time in a while, I actually had a block of several hours in which to sit down and sew. So I did. Here’s progress on my McCall 5525 jacket, done in Amy Butler Full Moon Polka Dot in lime, one of my recent cute prints acquisitions: […]
April 5, 2010 at 8:15 am
amber
I agree with your 3 general classifications for women. At 5′ 6″, I don’t really think I fall into the primarily cute camp, probably more the pretty camp when I’m all dolled up. I find that my body shape and coloring dictates more of what I will and won’t wear than where I fall in the attractiveness categories. So, not a lot of peachy and fleshy nude tones (I just look all washed out) and I try to stay away from a lot of volume on the bottom (I think it just exaggerates my hips to ugly proportions).
Btw, that french market fabric is AMAZING! If you’re ever looking to sell off your leftovers, please let me know. I’d buy it from you in a heartbeat.
April 5, 2010 at 1:28 pm
karen
Not sure if you have an H&M store in your vicinity, but I was in there today (feeling old and short and chunky as only that store can make me feel) and I saw that they had lots of lightweight cardigans in various colors, including several blues that look like they would work with that fabulous vintage French market print. Which, BTW, if you have any remnants of after your dress, you could them to me in gratitude for the sweater recommendation.
I wouldn’t expect you to do it from sheer niceness, of course. :)
April 6, 2010 at 12:52 pm
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April 11, 2010 at 5:46 pm
Nancy
Have you selected your coat pattern for the Amy Butler floral print? If so, do you mind sharing? Love the trench.
April 17, 2010 at 6:49 am
The sewingest fabric and another Arielle update « The Selfish Seamstress
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